The private room at the back of the house. The velvet banquette. The second bottle—a 1996 Krug Clos du Mesnil, because we're not leaving yet.

You know those conversations—late enough that the posture softens, honest enough that someone finally says the thing everyone's been thinking? The dinner party's over and only the interesting people are left. The room is warm. Someone pours another glass. Someone says something true.

That's what this is. Smart women, good wine, sharp talk—still elevated, still us, but looser. A little unfiltered. A little bit mischievous. Every Saturday evening in your inbox.

Tonight's pour: A Last Word, which is gin, green Chartreuse, maraschino, and lime in equal parts, shaken until your arm hurts and served in a glass that means business. It's a 1916 cocktail that disappeared for ninety years and came back stronger, which is honestly the exact energy we're all channeling right now. Bitter, herbal, completely uncompromising, and the perfect drink for a week spent writing about confidence and telling people to mind their own business.

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‘The Late Service’ pilot wrapped yesterday, and honestly? The room held way better than we expected. We spent the week filming instead of writing pieces, which means only one thing went live, and you know what? That was exactly right. The confidence piece is traveling between friends with subject lines like "READ THIS" and "this is literally the conversation we had at dinner," which is basically the highest compliment a piece can get.

Behind the camera, we captured something we genuinely didn't see coming, which is how much a thirty-minute conversation between two women at a bar looks exactly like the thing we've all been waiting for someone to make. Below, a few frames from yesterday's shoot in Boston—the marble bar, the linear fireplace, the gold wall sculpture, the skyline behind us, and that feeling when you know you just made something good.

Your fav group chat, but with citations.

Okay, can we please talk about something? Because I am getting so many messages from women who are like, "I have my shit together, I know what I'm doing, I've figured out my career and my style and my life, so why is everyone still trying to fix me, and how do I get them to stop without being a complete bitch about it?"

And honestly? This is the advice industrial complex at work, and it is absolutely designed to keep you buying solutions to problems you don't actually have. The whole industry survives by convincing successful women that somewhere, somehow, you're still broken and need fixing. It's always more confidence, more boundaries, more morning routine, more mindset work, more something, and the conversation never fucking ends because the conversation is the product.

Here's the thing these women already know but won't say: they don't have a confidence problem. They have an audience problem. What they need is not more self-belief, it's fewer people in their ear telling them what they should believe about themselves. The advice economy needs you to stay in student mode forever, because a woman who has learned what she needs to know and moved on to actually doing the work? She's not buying anything.

If you've been successful for, let's say, longer than your last performance review, the advice phase is over. You don't need more input. You need a much shorter list of people whose opinions you actually seek, and you need to guard that list like it's your social security number.

The most confident women I know? They have maybe three people whose feedback they'll take on their lives, and everyone else gets smiled at politely and completely ignored.

The cure for imposter syndrome isn't more confidence. It's fewer imposters.

Off the record.

So the long lunch is quietly back in midtown, and I mean back. The Polo Bar is impossible to get into on a Wednesday afternoon again, and Le Veau d'Or is turning away the same people it's been turning away since 1985. The two-hour weekday lunch basically disappeared when everyone decided every meal had to be a networking opportunity and every hour had to be optimized, but apparently the women who actually matter have decided that was bullshit. Conversations take time. Who knew?

BETWEEN US: The woman whose calendar can handle a two-hour lunch on a Wednesday is the woman whose calendar nobody else gets to question, and that's not an accident.

MoMA is running this thing called "A Hard Stare: Peter Hujar, Paul Thek, and Their Circle on Film" through Friday, and it's basically about the photographer who captured all the interesting New York people in the '70s and '80s and this artist who made installations about death and renewal. Both guys died in the late '80s at the height of their thing, and now they're having this posthumous moment that basically says their work was too weird and too early for their own decade.

BETWEEN US: The exhibition that gets extended twice is usually the one all the right people saw opening week, but this one's actually worth the effort while you can still get in.

The dumb-phone thing has officially stopped being a trend piece and started being a lifestyle. The women who switched in 2024 are straight up refusing to switch back. There's this whole crew now that only answers landlines after seven, checks email twice a day on a schedule, and has basically remembered that being unreachable when you don't want to be reached is actually revolutionary. It's not digital detox, it's digital agency, which hits way different.

BETWEEN US: The woman who can't be reached on the third try isn't avoiding you, she's just the most expensive room you've never been invited into.

One thing worth getting smart about.

The disappearing cultural record. So this week the Internet Archive dropped this report called "Vanishing Culture," and it's honestly kind of terrifying. Basically, streaming platforms and corporate licensing deals are systematically erasing books, films, and music from public access without anyone bothering to archive them first. MTV News? Gone. Gawker? Only exists in the Wayback Machine now. And cyber attacks on major libraries are creating these new barriers to basically everything we think of as shared cultural memory.

The whisper: All those cultural artifacts you assume are just... available somewhere? They're not. And the places that are supposed to be preserving them are getting attacked both digitally and financially.

The bigger whisper: When digital stuff can just disappear overnight because some corporation decides it's not profitable anymore, our shared cultural memory becomes someone else's private asset, which was probably the plan all along.

TL;DR: The cultural record we think exists doesn't exist, the digital stuff we think is archived isn't archived, and assuming someone, somewhere, is keeping track of the things that matter is the expensive mistake it always was.

One thing worth the second glass, because we were making television.

You Don't Need Confidence. You Need Fewer People in Your Ear. — The confidence industry survives by convincing you the problem is inside you, but actually the problem is that like twenty-seven people currently have voting rights on your life, and you've been counting every single ballot. The piece we published while the cameras were rolling.

Because the glass is not empty yet.

Listening: "Portrait in Evans" by Noa Levy and Paul Edis. They took Bill Evans's compositions, added these intimate lyrics and arrangements that somehow honor the original while making something completely new, and honestly it's jazz for women who thought they didn't like jazz, or for women who already knew they did and want to hear what comes next.

Leave us with this: "Confidence was never the problem, the audience was." From this week's piece, which we wrote, sat with for two days, and then published exactly as it was because sometimes the first draft just gets it right.

Intrusive thought: Whether the person who posts "no makeup Monday" is wearing mascara, and if so, does mascara not count as makeup, or are we all just agreeing to pretend we don't see it.

If this landed somewhere true, forward it to one person who would read it without skimming and not say anything until they got to the end.

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Until next Saturday.

Adrienne